I have been dreading writing this post since I put it on my content calendar a few months ago. So much so that it’s been moved around time and time again. I finally decided a few days ago that today was going to be the day I touched on this topic and I’m sticking with it so let’s hop on in. Today I’m writing about body positivity as a bride. Staying body positive as a bride is probably one of the most difficult things I’ve ever experienced. It doesn’t matter what shape or size you are, everyone has a little bit of insecurity. But those insecurities seem to be amplified tenfold when you become a bride.
Some of you know that I suffer from anxiety and one of the biggest anxiety inducing things about wedding planning for me has been my body image. If you’ve read my posts about wedding dress shopping, then you’ll know that this is one of the reasons I ended up hating my first wedding dress. But what I wanted to focus on today is the pressure that we as brides put ourselves under when we’re worrying about our body image for the wedding. I’m really just completely free writing here, which isn’t something I normally do in blog posts so bear with me while I get these thoughts out but I feel as though they’re important.
The wedding day has been made out to be this huge day, the best day OF YOUR LIFE and that’s the first problem. If our wedding day is where Justin and I peak then we’re doing something wrong. But it’s easy to see why we would place so much importance on physical appearance for our wedding day. Your wedding day is a day that people will remember for years to come, have pictures of for literally decades, and all of those things make it seem like we have to kill ourselves trying to lose just five pounds before our wedding day.
The number of brides I see in Facebook groups lamenting over the fact that they aren’t what they feel to be the perfect size or asking for health and fitness advice is honestly tragic. My heart goes out to each and every person who has felt like they HAD to lose weight in order to have the perfect wedding day. What I see almost as much of, however, is people bashing those women who decide to take action and make themselves better for their wedding. Whether a bride wants to lose weight, gain weight, or stay the same should be supported by everyone because that’s HER decision.
After I felt awful in my first wedding dress, I decided I needed to make a change. It took me a while to finally find a workout program and nutrition that worked for me (TG for Beachbody) but I decided to make a change, not just for my wedding, but of my life. I’m planning on writing a lot more about my weightloss and healthy lifestyle journey next week but if you want to know more about my experience right now you can check out this post I wrote on the 21 Day Fix. But I’m not writing this post to tell you to sign up for one of my challenge groups. I’m writing this post to let everyone out there know that the decision you make should be what’s best for you.
I have to take a few minutes and brag about my future husband because he is seriously THE BEST when it comes to supporting me. He never once has made me feel uncomfortable about my weight or the way my body looks. I wholeheartedly believe that he thinks I’m beautiful no matter whether I’m fully dressed up with my hair and makeup done or lounging on the couch in the same dog hair covered sweatpants and t-shirt I’ve been in all week. But when I explained that I was going to go on this fitness journey and that this was going to be a lifestyle change for me and not just a wedding weight loss goal he was completely supportive. And he has continue to share encouragement no matter how big or small my goals are.
Here are a few of my go-to tips for staying body positive as a bride:
- Surround yourself with positivity
- Write down a few motivating mantras and say them every single day
- Have a strong support system and lean on them
- Know that you are beautiful inside and out